How To Find A Girlfriend ► Explained With Dark Souls

Finding a girlfriend is hard. I’m not interested in hookup culture or messing around or anything like that. I just wanted to find a genuinely good partner for myself that I could see myself getting married to. I’ve watched countless videos about how to find her. It always turns out the same way. You think it might have a chance of going somewhere and then you get ghosted or something like that or rejected. It just doesn’t work out. Maybe you

Were just too shy to even say anything in the first place. I’ve experienced all of these things. Now, after such a long time of wanting a girlfriend so badly but never having one, I finally found her. And surprisingly, I didn’t have to use any of the advice from those videos to get her. And it’s not a girl that was just like, “Yeah, I’ll take whatever I can get at this point.” Because I’ve taken what I can get before and that

Hasn’t worked out for me either. No, this girl is genuinely special to me and complements my life. And I’ve been with her for 2 years now. So, I want to explain to you how to not just get a girlfriend but have an actual special person in your life that you can see yourself with way in the future. You actually don’t need to be the most handsome guy ever, have lots of money, be tall, or even be the funniest person

Ever. You might not believe me, but the first step in finding your girlfriend is found in the game Dark Souls. Because like in Dark Souls, you have to be on your own journey. There aren’t a lot of girls in the game and the only ones really in the game are the fire keeper and an old lady that sells you items. Other than that, you can sometimes find more female characters out in the world, but for that, you don’t focus on finding

Them. Instead, you focus on just progressing on your own journey. Your focus is not to find a girlfriend, but along your journey, you find a girls who are on a similar path to you which you actually kind of like. Your mission is to link the first flame once again and for that, you’re going to need to kill some bosses. After fighting your way through Lothric Castle, Vordt of the Boreal Valley, and all of the Undead Settlement, including a giant

Archer, a tree with ball sacks, and Satan himself, you come across a girl named Anri of Astora. She’s on her own mission, and coincidentally, it turns out that your mission is leading you in a similar direction. And there are some other girls in the game where this is the same situation. You find them kind of unexpectedly, just because you were progressing through different areas. You wouldn’t have found them if you did not progress yourself. And that’s why the first thing

You need to do if you want to find a girlfriend is be on your own mission. When I first met my girlfriend, it was at the school gym. I’d already kind of given up trying to find a girlfriend at this point, and so I was just focusing on myself. I was going to college for a program that I chose for myself, and while I had some free time, I was going to the gym to gain some

Muscle. Nothing I was doing at this time was actively trying to find a girlfriend, and yet that’s where I met her for the first time. I recognized her from one of my classes, so I introduced myself, and that was it. It was a pretty quick first interaction. But if it wasn’t a long interaction, and I didn’t make her fall in love with me from just that first small chat, then how did I actually get into a relationship with

Her? In Dark Souls, at Firelink Shrine, the firekeeper there is part of your mission, and that’s why you have to keep seeing her and talking to her. And that’s actually the next most important step in finding your own girlfriend. Proximity. You keep seeing her. You talk to her more and more. More of these small light chats that allow both of you to get to know each other better. You stop by for a quick second, talk to her,

And then you’re on your way. And this is exactly how it was in real life for me, too. After that initial introduction, it’s like I opened up that opportunity to be able to say hi again anytime I saw her in one of my classes. This even made us become friends and start talking over text. But still, during this period of me getting to know her, there was no pressure or even really mention of boyfriend or girlfriend yet. Just light

Talks about school and whatever. And not for very long either, because I was still on my own mission of going to school and going to the gym and everything else I was doing at the time. Once you’ve had enough small light chats, you both start to get a feeling of whether it’s actually a good fit or not. At this point, if you choose to, you can start bringing up and entertaining the idea of a relationship. You can do it in a funny, joking way or

Have an honest conversation about it. But you should let her know what your real intentions are and not just delay whatever decision you’re going to make. Just be honest with yourself and follow that direction. If you want her to be yours, then tell her that. That’s what I did and she said yes. And honestly, there isn’t a lot more to it than this. I know some people will have some self-limiting beliefs already stewing in their heads about this, but it’s

Actually just the truth, because think about it. If she’s the right one for you, it won’t really matter exactly what you say. You don’t need to research and have some perfect pick-up lines and always know the right thing to say that will make her like you. Because if she likes you, then she just likes you. It won’t matter if you look funny or stupid sometimes. Let her get to know the real version of you instead of some fake,

Perfect, ideal version of you. It won’t even matter if you look less professional or less serious than other people, because she doesn’t care about other people if she likes you. And if she is still looking at other people while also entertaining you, then is that the kind of girl you want to have in your life anyway? Not only are you trying to be a good boyfriend that a lucky lady gets to have eventually, but you’re also

Looking for a proper girl that will love you the way you are. Just remember that. So feel free to be stupid with her. It’s like in Dark Souls when you do an emote in front of the fire keeper and she just does a little laugh because you’re acting stupid, but she likes it. She just loves you. But, what if you don’t have enough confidence to even go and talk to her in the first place? Well, part of the reason I was

Able to approach and talk to such a beautiful girl was because I’d already experienced rejections before. It wasn’t new to me anymore. I’ve been in that situation too many times where I have a crush on a girl in class, and I want to talk to her, but it’s like my body is frozen in place, and I just can’t seem to do it. Days and weeks and months pass, and I still don’t do it. And then eventually comes a day

Where I see or find out that she got a boyfriend. And it makes me angry, but who else can I even blame except myself? Because I was the one who didn’t take action. So, at the point where I met my girl, I was done letting the opportunity slip away. I wanted to at least go talk to her. I wasn’t about to let the same thing happen again. And on top of this as my motivation to get up and

Go talk to her, I was also giving myself my own confidence, too. Because by being on your own mission, which was the first point I made in this video, confidence comes naturally to you. Because you’re working so hard and exhausting yourself in either the gym or with work that you go through life with more nonchalance. And girls love confidence and nonchalance. Another thing that’s been getting really popular recently, and may have affected your view of girls and

Relationships overall, is appearance. People have started to think that looks are the most important thing in a relationship. And if you’re ugly, then you just won’t get a girlfriend. Of course, you still have to take care of yourself in the basic ways like brushing your teeth, combing your hair, and trying not to look disgusting, you know? Like at least presentable. But, I’m going to be honest with you, looks maxing is overrated, and you don’t need it as much as you think you do. Because

First of all, remember what I said before, if she’s the kind of girl who really, really cares that much about how you look, and her love is conditional, then is that really the kind of girl you want to be with? And second, I don’t understand why looks have become so important for men to focus on, anyway. Looks are important for men, sure. Guys see a beautiful girl and they get attracted to them, but girls take time. They’re different. They don’t

Usually fall in love with appearance, they fall in love with the way you make them feel. That’s why they say if you can make her laugh and giggle, you can make her cheeks clap and jiggle because looks are not the most important thing for a girl deciding if she wants to be with someone. Girls honestly say that they’re attracted to dad bods. Don’t you think that kind of contradicts what we believe about looks maxing? Girls just want to feel safe and loved

And like they’re the only girl in the world with you. I have a skinny nerd neck and not once have I ever heard anything about it from my girl. Usually I’m the one feeling insecure about it and she’s the one that needs to reassure me. Of course, I know there are exceptions. Some girls really are superficial and will call you ugly compared to other guys, but again, do we want the girl that treats us like that

Anyway? Or would we rather have the girl that loves us the way we are? I’m telling you it’s possible even if you think it’s not because I have proof, two years together. So if you want to actually find yourself a girlfriend, a partner, first, be on your own mission. Don’t make finding her the focus because then paradoxically, she’ll get farther away from you. If you chase butterflies, they’ll just fly away, but if you build a beautiful garden, then they’ll come to

You. And even if no butterflies come, at least you still have your beautiful garden. Second, be in regular proximity to her so that you can actually get to know her and not rush anything because love is slow. See if you actually like each other first. And lastly, don’t let any kind of self-limiting beliefs make you believe that you are not worthy of love as you are because you definitely are, but we’re just trying to find diamonds in the mud,

Right? So keep looking. Keep staying on your purpose. Try to become the best version of yourself so that when the random moment comes that you meet the girl of your dreams, she’ll already love you. That’s all I have to say for today, guys. If you like Dark Souls and self-improvement, I have a free community that you can join. It’s just going to be the link in the description. I also have a new course. It’s called how to genuinely fix your

Life explained with Dark Souls. So, if that sounds interesting to you, there’ll be a second link in the description for that, too. No pressure for either of them. Just they’re there if you want to check them out, all right? You take care, guys. Don’t you dare go hollow.