How To Find Your Purpose ► Explained With Dark Souls
So many videos online talk about purpose, but it’s annoying because a lot of them don’t elaborate like what is purpose. They say it’s important for you to know what your purpose is, and once you know what it is, suddenly all your problems disappear. But then they don’t say how to actually figure out what it is. I used to be confused about it, too. But in the last couple years, I’ve tried and tested some things. And the game
Dark Souls of all things taught me how to actually find your purpose. If you like playing Dark Souls, genuinely ask yourself, why do I even like this game? Because if you’re like me, of course you know that the game is hard. That’s part of the fun. But not only that, the game actually pisses you off sometimes, like actually makes you mad. But you do like the game still. So why would we play a game that makes us angry? Why would we
Stay? I think because the suffering the game gives us still feels worth it to us. Where’s the validation? Where’s the reward you get from sitting there for 4 hours on one boss? We’re not looking for anything external. We’re doing it just because we like the game and we find it fulfilling somehow. Dark Souls is something worth suffering for us. The pain is worth it even when there is no external reward. If something in real life can give you that same feeling, the
Kind of struggle that’s frustrating but somehow still worth it, then you’ve probably found your purpose. Congratulations. People who rely on exttrinsic motivation burn out or never reach mastery because their drive, their passion collapses when they don’t get their immediate reward. But when you’re intrinsically motivated, when you just love doing the thing itself, then the passion stays and you can actually stick with it and you can suffer for it. Not in a bad way, but like you’re willing to
Suffer for it. You know what I mean? And consistency becomes natural. The people who go to the gym just because they enjoy going to the gym always outlast the people who go because they want to lose weight. The person who enjoys going stays going consistently for years. But the person with the external goal quits when they don’t see that the scale is going down fast enough. Your true passion is the thing you’d still choose to do even when it’s hard, unrewarding,
Or invisible. Sometimes finding passion requires introspection and iteration. Introspection helps you understand what gives you flow. What absorbs you so deeply that time disappears. Experimentation exposes you to different domains so you can test that feeling in the real world. Most people wait for passion to appear like a revelation. But you actually discover it through movement. Try, fail, pivot, reflect until you recognize the work that makes you feel alive even when it’s hard. When people say, “I need to find my purpose,”
Or, “I don’t know what to do with my life,” what they’re actually trying to say is, “I don’t know how to fill my days.” But how do you fill your days and with what? Start by designing your ideal daily timet. By mapping out hour by hour what your perfect day would look like, what you’ll do at 9:00 a.m., 10:00 a.m., 11:00 a.m., all the way through to the time that you go to sleep, you translate the abstract question of, “I don’t know
What to do with my life. What’s my life purpose? You translate that into actual tangible habits and actions. Think about Dark Souls. So, our goal as a chosen undead is to link the fire, right? So, that’s already decided for us. We don’t need to think about it. We just need to do what’s in front of us. The confusion is gone even for our daily activities because everything we do will just be in pursuit of this goal of linking the
Flame. Whatever we choose to do with our time in a day will most likely serve this purpose. That’s why it’s important to have a purpose at all because then confusion is gone and we can just go. This method of making a timet makes it so that you’re not stuck in like existential paralysis trying to think of what is my entire life’s purpose. It skips that by starting with small embodied decisions. If you find for yourself that your ideal day includes
Training, hiking, or creating, then you’ve uncovered not just preferences but directional clues toward your purpose. Your purpose is an important thing to find. And so I think while you experiment and try to make a timetable for yourself for your ideal day, I don’t think that you should think of money at all. I mean to say you shouldn’t think about something you really want to do but then not do it because it doesn’t pay you money. Anything is monetizable
These days. Even videos of people going on a hike or playing video games or going to the gym. So don’t worry about monetizing it. Don’t worry about the money. Just first focus on actually finding something. Clarity comes from structure. Define what your ideal day looks like. Live it as much as possible and trust that the rhythm of that day will reveal your broader life purpose. All right. So maybe you’re thinking now like, okay, yeah, I should make a daily
Timet. So what’s my ideal day? But I don’t really have anything that I want to do. I can’t think of anything that I want to do. I don’t even know where to start. Purpose is not found through abstract reflection, but through noticing what activities naturally bring peace, joy, or flow. Try not to think of what you can gain from doing something. Just think about how you feel when you do something. If you had all the money
In the world and suddenly money was no longer a problem, then what would you do regardless of the outcome? What would you do if you knew you were going to fail? What if there was nothing as a reward? No money, no nothing. What would you still do regardless just because you like doing it? Think about back to when you were a little kid, like really young. What did that person want to do? Race cars, run fast, build stuff
With Legos? I’m thinking that maybe your core desire, whatever it is you’re searching for, but maybe haven’t found yet, it might lie there somewhere in the past that has been long forgotten or buried. What if your real core desire is building Legos because you did that as a little kid? Maybe you could go to school and become like an architect or something more hands-on like actually building architecture or something. If you loved racing your little Hot Wheels
As a kid, maybe you’d like to be a mechanic or a racer or something like that. It doesn’t matter how the core desire evolves to match you now. Just find out what it is in the first place, okay? Once that desire is identified, even if it’s not certain yet, you’re just kind of testing it out right now. The key is to align all areas of your life around that thing. From diet and career to daily habits. Purpose is not a
Feeling, but it’s like an organizing structure that should make you align your entire day, structure your day around it. For me, honestly, I really love watching YouTube as a kid. I really like watching this guy called Vanos Gaming. Maybe you know about him. And I really like watching all the edits and the games he played and just everything I really liked watching. Now I’m doing YouTube my own way, making my own videos. I don’t make the same kinds of
Videos as Vanos does, but I’m here doing YouTube. Even if YouTube doesn’t pay me and I have to get a job that actually pays me, I think I’d still keep making videos for as long as I can just cuz I like doing it. Discover purpose by identifying your most authentic inner desire and structuring every part of your life to express that thing. Fulfillment comes from alignment and not achievement. It’s okay to feel directionless. Even after watching this
Video, now knowing what it is you need to do to go out and find your purpose. You might not find it right away. You might still feel stuck. But that’s okay because everybody feels that way sometimes. But it’s not a failure, though. It’s a necessary exploration phase. Confusion is not a sign of weakness, but a sign that your inner compass is trying to find something real. That nagging dissatisfaction is actually the beginning of self-discovery. Most people ask things
Like, “What do I want?” But they should be asking, “What is the thing that I’m willing to suffer for?” Because everything you choose, no matter what, it’s going to have some challenges. Mechanics have challenges and YouTubers and race car drivers and people who make music. But what are you willing to stick with and really try and struggle sometimes? Yeah. But still want to try because it actually means something to you. If you don’t care about it, then
Why would you want to suffer for it? Find something you would be willing to suffer for and endure pain because of. Passion is not about what excites you momentarily, but about what you can suffer for joyfully. Intrinsic or internal motivation is doing something for its own sake, which keeps passion alive. But exttrinsic or external motivation is doing it for money or status and that kills it. Your purpose or passion can actually change with time. It works in layers. Once one layer
Of purpose is completed, it’ll feel like you’re no longer called to do that thing and it’ll be on to the next thing. So, I’m saying hopefully once you find something now, expect that in some time you might not feel the same about it anymore and it might just be time to move on. But for now, keep looking for your purpose. Men need purpose. If you don’t have a purpose, make it your purpose to find your purpose. If you
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